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Making Positive Change Happen in Your Life: Awesome Tips and Creative Ways to Achieve Your Personal Goals

simone_aisha[quote]New Year’s resolutions, almost everyone has made one. But the beginning of the year doesn’t have to be the only time to make changes or set goals. It’s important to think outside of the New Year’s box about resolution making. We all have various strategies for making changes. See a change that needs to take place in your life? Hop on it, no matter what month it is.

Working toward achieving a goal should be a daily practice. We’ve all felt overwhelmed when it comes to completing tasks and achieving goals. Breaking down your goals into daily pieces can also help prevent becoming overwhelmed by them and can give you the space to ease into lifestyle changes.

A to-do list can be a useful tool for achieving daily goals:

  1. Write down what you need to accomplish and do not remove it from the list until it is done!
  2. Hold yourself accountable for every item and reward yourself for completing it.
  3. If for some reason a to-do item cannot be accomplished, make it the very first item for the following day.
  4. Write a message at the top of your list that will encourage your completion of each task.

 

Our favorite encouragement quotes?

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These messages serve as constant reminders that you do, in fact, ‘got this’ and that your power comes from the work you do. So, get out your notepad and werk!

Making a to-do list isn’t the only way to set and achieve your goals. When we have goals that cannot be accomplished in one day, we look to other tools for growth and development, such as a vision board.

A vision board is a great way to visualize your purpose and long term goals:

  1. Break out your favorite magazines.
  2. Cut and paste pictures that reflect your journey onto a large poster board.
  3. Hang up your vision board in a place that you visit every day so that you constantly see your plan for development.
  4. Track your progress.

 

There are tons of ways to visualize your goals and life path. We recognize that creating to-do lists and vision boards, can also be overwhelming. Where do you start? And what happens when you can’t get anything done? How do you lose the stress and get back on track? Answer: We can’t tell you, because you know YOU best. As PhD students, researchers, and instructors, we are constantly on the go. We forget to eat, sleep (which is totally optional in graduate school), and sometimes we forget our to-do lists at home. And then there are moments where we get sidetracked taking self-portraits and posting them (and photos of Ice-T and Napoleon - our cat and dog) to Instagram. These things can make achieving our goals overwhelming, so constantly checking in with ourselves is what gives us room to breathe and get back on track.

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Simone’s Personal Altar and Vision Board
Photo Credit: Simone Savannah

Make time to check in with yourself and affirm your spirit. Create a time for reflection. Before (or after) you break out your favorite M.A.C lipstick and lip liner, really take time to reflect on who you are as well as your desires and needs. This “me time” may help you realize the changes you need to make and how you may choose to go about making them. Additionally, create a space for reflection. Try decorating a table with your favorite pictures (of yourself and loved ones), affirmations, and letters. Visit this space every day. It could serve as a starting point for your day, and a reminder that you are powerful and loved by the most important people in this world.

We believe that setting goals and affirming one’s spirit are necessary for growth and development. As we approached the New Year, our own self-reflections and our friends constantly reminded us that changes needed to be made. We knew that last year’s goals needed revising and that a new year meant we had to throw out old lipsticks and invite something new into our lives. So, today, as you work on completing tasks and taking care of you, we also encourage you to ask yourself, “Turn down for what?” Perhaps who we mean to quote is Maya Angelou when she says, “I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.”

simone_writer[shine]Simone Savannah is an English instructor and contributing writer for the Project on the History of Black Writing at the University of Kansas. She is currently pursuing a PhD in English-Creative Writing and Women, Gender, & Sexuality Studies. Her poetry is based on personal experiences she can’t let go—imagined or otherwise. Simone also enjoys making green smoothies, attending Bikram Yoga classes, and laughing uncontrollably.

aisha_writer[shine]Aisha Upton is a first year PhD student at the University of Pittsburgh, studying Sociology and Women’s Studies. Her research interests: Black women in service organizations and violence against Black women. She is passionate about many things including community service, lipstick, baking, thrifting, knitting, and being a proud owner of a Cockapoo, Napoleon. At the intersection of being a diligent student, a fashionista, and an activist – you will find Aisha, attempting to find a balance.


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Health is W.E.A.L.T.H.S: Practicing Self-Care, Maintaining Wellness

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LeRoyna Edwards - Ray of Sunlight
Photo by LeRoyna Edwards

Everyone has free will to choose what she or he desires. Wellness is a natural state of being, and it is my first desire. I realized as a young wom(b)man that in order to be successful in any aspect of my life I must be physically healthy; it is something that my cells yearn for every moment of the day. This desire for wellness motivates me, and I believe it is the foundation for true wealth and joy.

In order to maintain wellness, there are a number of practices – physical and non-physical elements – that are available to us daily. There is an acronym that I read years ago (and I’m unsure of the source now) that represents what I believe to be fundamental to wellness: Health is W.E.A.L.T.H.S. W.E.A.L.T.H.S. = Water, Exercise, Air (breath), Light (sun and chakras), Thoughts (empowering and positive), Healthy foods (raw), and Sleep.

In other words, if we take time to:

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we will experience vitality and richness from the stream of well being, creating a magnet for success in all of our endeavors.

There is an abundance of wellness; however, the first step towards it, is the desire to have it. Unfortunately, we have to experience a lack of wellness or dis-ease in the body to make us aware of the delicate balance. Dis-ease is rooted in a lack of attention to and awareness about our thoughts and actions, leaving the body unable to properly cope with what’s happening in our lives.

The body is a great teacher, as it uses physical and emotional responses and reactions as lessons in well being. Dis-ease is direct communication from your body to you that something is out of order – serving to push you to be better and to create the desire for a greater level of wellness.

I also believe that we have the ability to heal ourselves through the power of self-discipline, self-control, and self-awareness, as dis-ease usually means that one or more of the requirements for optimum health (water, exercise, air, light, thoughts, healthy food, and sleep) are out of balance. If you relax within the body and ask it for wisdom, it will reveal the therapy needed to restore your health.

quote_roni[article]I will share in upcoming blog posts some of my experiences with self-healing and how to apply the laws of health to your own daily life, exploring the true meaning of wealth. My how-tos will outline effective ways to make healthy habits a natural part of your routine, and these inexpensive, simple tips will help you maintain a happy, harmonious, and holistic lifestyle.

Many of us give so much to the world as nurturers and maintainers of those around us, that we forget to do the things that help us thrive. We forget simple self-care, and over time experience health challenges, dissatisfaction with life, and resentment in our relationships. Self-care is extremely important in the process of attracting an abundance of positive energy and love – for yourself and for others.

This year let’s make a commitment to love ourselves by practicing self-preservation through self-care. For now, I’ll leave you with this affirmation. Speak it, think it, live it: “My health is my wealth. When I take care of my health it is like depositing money in the bank of Abundant Life!”

roniSystar Roni Auset is a licensed yoga instructor, healthy living practitioner, holistic educator, and master joyologist! Her aim is to improve her community’s quality of life by promoting a healthy lifestyle. By offering educational workshops, health oriented events, youth productions, and training programs, Systar Roni teaches and encourages holistic health as a way to empower people to make choices that will positively impact their own health and that of their peers, families, and communities. Using the latest information about nutrition and natural living, as well as sharing knowledge about the benefits of physical activity and meditation, she intends to be a strong source of vitality within the community. If you would like to schedule a workshop/yoga class, participate in the Circle 77 buying club, or support her work with youth, please visit The Children Shall Lead Them Productions.


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Performance Art and the Journey to Wholeness: Becoming the Door You Wish to Open

traci_currie[quote-name]When one door closes, another door opens. - Alexander Bell. This adage is pretty common. It is also quite empowering in the midst of frustration, disparity, and a needed dose of faith. You might ask, “What does this phrase have to do with Art & Creativity?” Well, let us consider the sort of door that is closing and the door that is being opened. Have you ever taken a look at the actual door? What if it needs fixing or there is no knob for you to twist and pull open? What if the door has a peephole or has unique phrases on it that encourages you to pound incessantly on it? How about this, as you are approaching the door you see a big sign that says, “STOP, RUN THE OTHER WAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN!” Bell’s adage reminds me of a line in Alice Walker’s novel The Color Purple. The character, Shug Avery, says to the protagonist, Celie, “I think it pisses God off if you walk by the color purple in a field somewhere and don’t notice it.” These phrases have everything to do with art and how it empowers us to be creative. We spend our lives working to pay for basic needs, exercise to stay relatively agile, and heal the body of any ailments, but then what - as if those items were not enough to keep you busy? I would say, “You stop and smell the roses, study the color purple, and stare at the doors that are closed and opened. Pretend you are a Jedi Knight and be ONE with the door.” Sometimes you do all of these activities simultaneously and sometimes you don’t. Why is this important? It is my belief that art helps us define the word beautiful. So imagine, if we become the artist, then beauty can be a self-actualizing revelation; and as such, it can empower and possibly heal.

I presently work with young women in a juvenile detention center located in Flint, Michigan – Genesee Valley Regional Center (GVRC). The women are between the ages of 10 and 17 years old. This center, as I have been told, is middle ground for the youth who are sent to GVRC. The facility is a temporary confinement, until a decision is made by the court system. The youth may either re-enter society or they may be sent to another facility.

The vision of this art program started with two women, Jen Sikora and Shelley Spivack. Together they wrote a grant to fund this 12-week pilot arts program set to begin September 2011. When the program was complete, we realized its importance, and Shelley (along with her team) sought financial support to sustain the program for another 8 weeks. Shelley, who is also a family court referee in Flint, explained, ”The GVRC program is important for these young women as it allows them to find their voice. Most of these girls have been physically and/or sexually abused or neglected. No one has really listened to their issues and concerns. They have landed in GVRC because they have acted out - often in response to their own victimization. This program gives them the chance to find their voice and to be heard.”

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GVRC participants writing about views on beauty
and expressing what they aspire to be
Photos by Traci Currie

The pilot arts program initially included both genders. However, at the end of the program I wanted to work with only women because I wanted to have conversations about their lives without the presence of young men impacting how and why they spoke. I had noticed that one particular woman responded to the men in the room, whether they were paying attention to her or not. I also noticed that much of her writing had to do with a lack of relationship she had with her father. As well, she wrote about being loved by a man the way she hoped her father would love her. Primarily men were shaping this young woman’s identity. The majority of her writings and performances were about men, and this concerned me; especially the writing that talked in detail about physical and sexual abuse she had experienced. It was my observations of her that made me realize, I do not want any men in the room when we meet.

The weekly workshop that I co-facilitate with other writers revolves around spoken word art. In the sessions we use performance art as a way of helping the young women hone in on their voices to share their stories the way they wish to tell them. They carefully choose their words and begin honoring themselves as the creator of their stories. After all, who can tell your story better than you can? The more the women open up, the more empowered they become because they are not being told what to say and how to say it. They are naming themselves and speaking the kind of life they wish to live. The young women become the doors they wish to open. Some decorate the door and some turn the doors into windows. It is an amazing journey we are on!

I close with one of our young women who must remain unnamed for legal reasons. After being inspired by 2012’s 17 year-old Flint, Michigan Olympic goal medal boxer, Claressa Shields, this artist wrote a rhyme about being a boxer:

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Alexander Graham Bell’s phrase is much longer. He contends, “When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”

I would say, “If we choose to stare at the door for a long moment, consider redesigning the door. Beautify the door. Create a door you can walk through, bust down, or remove the door completely so that you can reach the endless possibilities on the other side. The journey in doing this, in itself is artistic, creative and indeed empowering. But remember, the door has a role to play in your development, as well.”

TC[photo_CW2]Traci Currie is a Communication Studies lecturer at University of Michigan-Flint, as well as a knit-crochet artist, writer, and spoken word performer. She has been a part of the art world for over 15 years in many capacities: art gallery board member; overseeing a spoken word series for 5 years; performing nationally and internationally; published poet. She believes Phoenix Rising Collective will help young women reach their highest potential and pay-it-forward. “This organization is about empowering women to take ownership of their lives, claim their identities and be the positive change they wish to see in the world they live.”

You can also read about Traci’s journey to self-love, as this contributing writer was also a LYFF feature: click here.

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It’s Love Yourself First! Friday. This Phoenix is Ebony.

ebony_lyfEbony values self-love and care because it helps her to be present for her two little boys. “When I look at my children I want to be better, and I want to be a role model for them,” she says, so Ebony makes a much needed self-investment in an effort to give them what they deserve. For example, every week she dedicates a few hours to working out at the gym, using this time to also pray, clear her mind, and release stress, “as there is very little quiet time in my life between work, my three-year old, and my six-month old,” she expresses. Embracing her workout hours as time to rejuvenate and refresh not only keeps her healthy, but balanced and centered during the week.

This beautiful Phoenix also carves out a moment every morning to read a daily affirmation. It’s as simple as a phone app download, and (voila!) she gets the day started in a positive direction. As a loving reminder, she makes sure to re-read the affirmation throughout the day, as being a very dedicated social worker can often be stressful. The words of encouragement are the positive push she needs to move forward with an optimistic spirit.

Ebony has made a very strong commitment to honoring her spiritual and physical well being, so she understands that self-love also means being surrounded with love and support from others. “I have become very selective of the people I allow in my inner circle, and those that aren’t in my best interest, I let go of.”

Ebony is most certainly a Phoenix rising – taking care of her mind, body, and spirit, practicing daily affirmations, committing herself to helping others, and showering her children with love. If that’s not enough, she’s investing in her career by starting graduate school this fall. Now, that’s the way to live a purpose-filled, self-loving life!

Love Yourself First! Friday is a weekly self-love series created by the Phoenix Rising Collective. Beautiful, diverse women of color tell their stories of triumph, share their personal affirmations, and declare their love for their own lives! The series is meant to inspire and empower women to fiercely demonstrate self-love in action in order to build and sustain healthy, positive self-esteem.


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The Water and the Sky Hold Hands: A Mother’s Fresh Perspective

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Amaya (“Mini Me”), Panama City Beach, Florida
Photo by Angela Eddings

As I approach the third year of motherhood I can’t help but celebrate the small victories every day. I realize now that no woman’s advice in the world could have prepared me for what I’ve experienced in sharing a life with my “Mini Me.” The challenges that have come with raising a baby girl alone have been very much like a rebirth. She teaches me something daily. At first I was somewhat fearful, full of worry. Every moment of every day I felt like there was something to worry about. It went from small things like, “Is my home clean enough? How do I know if she’s getting enough breast milk?” To thinking about larger issues like, “How can I afford quality daycare? And how do I get her father more involved?” There was always something in my head preventing me from simply enjoying being her mommy, but then something else happened in addition to the worry, she turned two.

As she approached the “terrific twos” her personality changed what seemed like overnight. Her newfound sense of independence put me in a place where I had to be ready for her to say or do anything at any moment. Sometimes a two-year old really can make you forget that you are actually the adult and the one in charge! From deciding when and what she will eat, to when and where she will go potty, to tantrums in the middle of Target, to sleeping when she can’t take it anymore rather than when I put her down to sleep – all in all I am tired.

I remember sharing with a friend the wonderful news that I was pregnant. After the hugs, tears, and excitement, she looked me directly in the eye and said, “Girl, I’m going to be real with you. Sleep as much as you can now, because you will never sleep again.” As I sat rocking her at 4:33am the other night I thought of my friend and couldn’t do anything else but cry.

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However, I had an “ah-ha” moment watching her walk along the beach for the first time a few weeks ago. Her face was indescribable. As she got closer and closer to the ocean and looked down in front of her, she realized the sand she’d been calling a sandbox went on for what seemed like forever. It was in that moment that I realized I had not been living in the moment as her mother. Rather than being worried about everything, I had to let go of my thoughts and enjoy what was real. When I thought it couldn’t get any better I heard my baby excitedly say (with “binky” in mouth) pointing at the water, “Wook mommy water and the sky hold hands.” That was it! Those words put everything in perspective for me. Suddenly, I felt alive and rejuvenated. Now I know that having her is a way for me to live again with a fresh, new perspective about this sometimes crazy and worrisome world. My baby has taught me, rather than live in my head, to live in the moment – and be thankful for it.

angelaAngela Eddings is a monthly contributing writer for the PRC on topics that celebrate empowerment, growth, and change through motherhood. She is a single mother of a beautiful two-year-old daughter, Amaya. As a high school graduation coach, Angela’s passion for encouraging youth is a testament to her personal evolution as a believer in a holistic way of living. She exemplifies embracing and nurturing one’s mind, body and spirit through her love of writing and belief in affirmations. Daily personal experiences are no longer seen as challenges but opportunities for growth. This perspective has shaped her role as a mother, teacher, and friend and she looks forward to sharing the beauty in adopting that view with you.

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