Love Yourself First! Friday (LYFF) is part of our Shed Light series collection. We invite women to tell their LYFF stories to inspire and empower others to also fiercely demonstrate self-love in action. The questions are meant to “shed light” on various ways our featured Phoenixes are making self-care and intentional living a priority.
This week’s courageous Phoenix is DeDe:
How do you love yourself first? What does that mean to you?
Loving myself first means – putting myself first and being okay with it. I have always valued my self-worth and put effort into keeping my mind fed with spiritual and positive affirmations and pampering myself at home/spa, etc. I always knew God made me unique, and I’ve embraced my blessings. The blessings I was foolish not to embrace in my younger years, I’ve learned to smother with a huge Bear-Hug today! I love me, and that is why I’m always striving to have a center of peace, happiness, and love overflowing from my being.
What actions demonstrate the self-care you provide to your mind, body, and soul? (Exercise, healthy eating, spiritual practice, etc)
Unplugging from the “in thing” to do helps me center my mind and spirit.
Give me a great novel, tea, and quiet time to myself – just me, my thoughts, and positive affirmations or soft music – and I come out of this peaceful place freshly revived! Reading also allows me to get lost in an adventure while blocking out life’s distractions (work, social media, errands, etc.).
Exercise rejuvenates me, too, in so many ways; and it’s one of my biggest stress relievers. Dancing is self-expression and makes me feel free.
Spending time with positive women also makes me feel alive!
Having a church home helps me start the week in touch with my faith and provides spiritual rejuvenation. It’s also my check-and-balance for the life I want to live, along with daily morning and evening prayer to center and nourish my mind, body, and soul.
Is there an obstacle or challenge that you’ve overcome that led you to a deeper love for who you are?
An obstacle I overcame was learning to say no to things or people that do not enhance my life. I’m learning to live for what makes ME happy. I learned by going through a divorce how to make better choices for the right reasons. It was a difficult decision, but because of the experience it strengthened my friendship with my ex-husband and gave me deeper understanding to ask the following questions: (1) What would I do if fear wasn’t a factor? (2)What is the lesson in this experience?
What have you learned from self-love?
In the words of the late, but great Whitney Houston I’ve learned “…Learning to love yourself is the GREATEST love of all.”
Thank you for sharing your LYFF story with us, DeDe. You are definitely a Phoenix Rising!
If you’d like to share your self-love story with The Collective contact us here.
Love Yourself First! Friday is a bi-weekly self-love series created by The Phoenix Rising Collective. Beautiful, diverse women tell stories of triumph, share personal affirmations, and declare love for their lives! The series is meant to inspire and empower women to fiercely demonstrate self-love in action in order to build and sustain healthy, positive self-esteem. Be sure to read some of our other inspiring stories.